Navigating the world of being a parent is hard. You want to teach your children so much about themselves, you, and the world around them. You want to shield them from the cruelties and hardships this world can bring for as long as possible.

When you have a child who is neurodivergent and on the spectrum, it can feel like you are out in the wilderness with no map or guidelines. You understand how unique and special your child truly is. But you also understand that how they interact with the world and how others see them will always be vastly different from your own experiences growing up.

First, know that it's okay to be scared and nervous for your child's well-being. Second, know that there are practices, doctors, and support groups knowledgeable about raising a child on the spectrum. Finally, remember that every neurodivergent child is completely different from one another, and it might take some time to find what works for your child.

If you have a child who is autistic or neurodivergent, here are some tips.

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Create Structure

All children need structure, but it's especially important to establish this for children on the spectrum. Stucture, for them, helps to establish a solid routine that they know they can depend on. On a deep level, they need to know what to expect from situations at all times. While you might not be able to fully manage that with everything, there are some key areas you can do this with.

Mealtimes
School time
Play time
Therapy time (if applicable)
Bedtime

How each family chooses to structure their life and obligations is unique to them. We know it's easier said than done. After all, you have your own lives, work, and perhaps other children to manage. It might not always be perfect, and that is ok. You can help prepare your child in advance for any changes in their routine. For instance, if you know that they are learning about something specific at school, continue those conversations at home.

Depending on how they learn, visual schedules and calendars might be useful hanging in the kitchen or living room to help them see what to expect.

photo of a mom and girl sitting on a couch playing a game on their tablet

Know Their Sensory Boundaries

Individuals with ASD normally have some type of boundaries with sensory stimulation that completely overwhelms them. Paying attention to your child's sensory preferences and sensitivities can help prevent them from feeling too overstimulated.

Positive Reinforcement

This parenting style can do wonders for raising children neurodivergent and neurotypical children alike. Instead of using punishments for things they are doing wrong, encourage them to lean the other way with desired behaviors. Create a reward system for them that will help them learn, and be sure to praise them often.

Celebrate Their Achievements

No matter how big or small they accomplish, be sure they know you are proud. Recognizing progress and effort will help them foster positive social and personal skills in the short and long term.

Respect Their Autonomy

Children of all types are intuitive and want to be included in the decisions made about their lives. Even if it's something as small as choosing what to have for dinner. Teaching your child responsibility should also involve letting them make decisions for themselves when possible and reasonable. In the long run, this will help them become more independent and boost their self-confidence.

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Remember that parenting is a journey. You don't have to have all the answers or do everything perfectly. Be patient with yourself and your child, and remember that, in some ways, every parent out there struggles with something.

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Parenting Tips For Your Autistic Child